10 Ways to Deal with Gaslighting

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Trust your gut if something feels wrong

Our instincts serve a purpose. Whenever your gut sends you an uneasy signal, it's wise to heed its advice.

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Step away from the situation

When gaslighted by a partner, pause the cycle of unproductive rehashing. Step back, gather thoughts, seek support from friends, gain fresh perspective.

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Don't listen to anyone who tells you that you are crazy

True care means never using such hurtful words. Genuine concern prompts therapy or medical advice, not verbal harm.

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Keep receipts

Capture chat screenshots, share with a friend, take evidence photos. Jot down post-convo notes promptly. Preserve crucial interactions efficiently.

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Don't trust claims of your loved ones turning against you.

Beware of manipulation aiming to isolate and weaken you. Turning your support against you is a tactic to control and retain power. Stay vigilant.

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Seek guidance from a neutral therapist for support

When doubting reality, consult a pro to discern manipulative dynamics and abuse, ensuring your well-being.

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Don't waver

Stay firm, don't let your partner's doubts shake you. Speak confidently about memories, and avoid debates. Close with "We recall it differently."

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Don't get sucked into debates

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Don't engage in arguments over differing memories. Politely state, "Not interested in debating, let's move forward." Trust your perspective.

Set boundaries

Keep a list of responses that you can fall back on like:   "I remember what happened."  "You don't get to tell me how to feel."

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